The tale of a sixteen-year-old girl from Steubenville, Ohio and What is a Social Behavioral Norm?
By now I’m sure that almost everyone will be aware of the sub culture that caused a split in the Steubenville, Ohio community. I’m just wondering how much of this culture is an extension of the bullying culture that is festering world wide?
I walked into a classroom and found the boys had put a piece of leopard print with a hole cut in it on the blackboard with inappropriate suggestions chalked around it with the name of a girl. The boys in the class were heckling the girl and tormenting her.
I didn’t even know which girl in the class was being attacked in this way.
The girl may or may not have had sex with one of them or with someone else.
Now I figured that if she did not then this was no way for them to treat her. And if she did have sex with someone then that someone should be grateful to her and that this was in no way appropriate behavior.
I figured that if they were jealous that they had missed out they shouldn’t behave like this.
I went up to the black board and removed the “loin cloth” and started to wipe out the insults etc. I was immediately attacked from behind by the school prefect>”A supposed leader of the school”> “Someone to be looked up to in our society”
I defended myself as best I knew how not having been trained in any form of defense but I had learned a few things about balance and rage. I had learned to never stand still and take a beating from a bully. It ended when he made a charge at me and I used his weight etc against him and he went over a railing out into the school yard. At that point I was pulled away from the group of his supporters by a teacher.
I was taken to the principal’s office and declined to dob in anyone over the incident. I did however let it be known that my attacker deserved far more punishment than anything I might have done in defending my self.
The outcome was that an investigation took place. I was admonished for fighting.
The teacher who “rescued” me from the mob of supporters later told me that the prefect was way out of line and they looked at replacing him but his “popularity” and there being no alternative available meant they had had to leave him as head prefect.
So the system is in place to ensure that the bullying culture survives.
I wonder if they should have just removed him from the position and gone without a head prefect?
That was nearly 50 years ago. Nothing much has changed except that the culture seems to have become deeper and deeper entrenched.
Today the problems in society caused by bullying are many and a movement is afoot to try and break the cycle and acknowledge that bullying, is a major fault of society that, needs to be rectified. The movement is slowly gaining momentum in-spite of the fact that our politicians and a high percentage of our school teachers are out there only paying lip service to fixing the problem.
Ok so an underlying bullying culture is in part responsible for the attacks on the young girl in question, I have to ask if it is a “peer pressure”> read bullying culture leads these young girls into an unsafe environment, such as the football parties in this instance, or for that matter substitute any other sport culture you care to mention?
What else might be responsible for leading these ill-informed youth to believe that their behavior toward this young girl was acceptable as a normal part of life to them?
A lot of people seem to be passing the blame to parents for not bringing their kids up to know better. I wonder if this is in fact the reality of the situation? How can a parent who accept this behavior as a normal part of their lives be expected to teach their kids that what they do is actually wrong?
When do children become embroiled in the bullying culture? Would it be when they go to school and have to learn to become an integral part of Society and not just a part of a family group?
When should children be taught acceptable means of joining society? Before they go to school? By whom?
Back to the topic. Gender respect. When and how should men and women, boys and girls, be taught to respect themselves and each other? Should the Religious teach gender respect and what is or should be normal behavior in our Society? Religion does teach Social behavior but overlooks a lot that needs to be addressed.
Should Religion be taught in our schools. I believe no. Why? Because There are so many different religions out there all teaching different behavior norms. There are lots of people today who, when they find they want to behave differently to how their religion teaches that they should, simply move to a different religion that actually allows the behavior they want to adopt.
Is there a single religion that should be taught in our schools? Perhaps not. Surely a basis of religion is that there is one true God and that their religion is the one true religion.
Maybe then the time has come for our Religious and our Psychologists to come together and devise a standard curriculum that can be introduced into our schools that teaches what is acceptable normal Social Behavior? Such Social Behavior should be taught from the time children go to School and start to learn what is acceptable social behavior.
Any such course is bound to take time to develop and be fought over. I believe that a Social Behavior Course will have faults and omissions but with proper independent assessment should be able to be modified and corrected where it is found deficient or incorrect.
Perhaps a World Council could be formed to oversee the development of the Social Behavior course.
What’s this? A One World Council?
And there-in lies the complexity of overcoming a simple problem like bullying. Will it ever be stopped?